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October 26

IF WE ALWAYS DO WHAT WE'VE ALWAYS DONE

WE'LL ALWAYS GET WHAT WE'VE ALWAYS GOT.

Sometimes change is necessary. As we learn more about ourselves as human beings, as we reach out for more meaning and connection in our daily lives it becomes clear that we have to look at what we are doing and the level of stress we operate under. The degree of satisfaction in our family life and in our role as parents is a good place to start.

Sometimes a slight shift is all that is necessary to acheive that connection and gratification. Bills to pay and demands in the work place can leave parents feeling distant, inattentive and emotionally unavailable. If this is the case then the small amount of time we have for our home and children may not be rewarding and could compound our stress. We will often see stress in a family being played out through the children.

The willingness to commit to being our authentic and total self is a good first step. If we can communicate our needs and listen to other family members a plan of action can be formulated.

It may mean holding regular family meetings where the values and roles of the family can be established. It may mean looking at what we experienced in our own upbringing and deciding what we would like to do differently. It may mean figuring out what it is we really want rather than just unconsciously going through each day.

Adults are the model and therefore it is important to focus on developing the adult. Our children learn more from our behaviour and how we respond than the words we tell them. It takes a whole adult to mentor a whole child. The more sensitive, creative, aware and playful the adult, the richer the learning experience for children. Are you up to the challenge and ready for the rewards?

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	Juliewrote: You know the old adage? We can only learn from our mistakes. That is how we evolve, progress. It is ok to make mistakes, as long as we learn from them. Do not feel guilty for them, but see them as another opportunity to grow and mature. Then give yourself a great big hug for surviving yet another stepping stone of life! Jan. 30
	Brookewrote: here here. How we interact with the world or act in a situation gives our children and all other children who bare witness one of the most powerful learning experiences. Peace, Brooke Nov. 27
	Mike and Carolewrote: How true - we unfortunately learn this all too late! Have you ever heard the song "Children will listen"? It's from the musical "Into the Woods".....you will be able to hear it on the web - perfect for your role as a parent coach if you use a variety of resources. Aug. 19
	Marinawrote: Well hello, would love so much to be able to get in touch with you, I have lived this way since sixteen years, has worked in its ways but we must struggle when destiny brings us down continually but that is the past and now is now..I have a four year old huh huh at fourty four and parenting is not my best quality so if you find the time to want to give me pointers because in quebec it is one way or no way...please let me know.. Marina Apr. 3
	pat beauprewrote: your are very right about that Feb. 28
	flutter/duckwrote: isn't it so true that with age comes wisdom,and hindsight is 20/20.I also look back at the raising of my son and see so many of my mistakes.I believe that I can teach with giving the wisdom I learned from my mistakes.By giving the parents of today our knowledge we give them tools,to raise an even better generation.Once a parent always a parent. Feb. 28

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